How to Make Therapy WORK
Do Your Research
Deciding to seek therapy can be a big decision. Going to just anyone is NOT a good idea. This is not a one-time engagement; this is you committing to working through whatever issue(s) you are experiencing.
Finding a Therapist:
Psychologytoday.com is a good resource for finding therapists and psychiatrists in your geographic area.Search by Location
You can search by zip code or address.Filter by Specifics
You can filter by type of insurance, specific issue (e.g. ADHD, Anxiety, Depression), gender of the therapist, etc.College counseling centers are always a good place to start for students — it’s free (or requires a small co-pay), convenient, and can offer short-term treatment.If you do have an appointment at your college counseling center and do not feel it is a good fit for you or there is a waitlist to see a counselor, they SHOULD have a list of referrals in the area.Unfortunately, many first-time experiences are not a good fit. Doing your research will help increase your chances of finding a therapist that works for YOU.
The Key to Success in Therapy:
Research shows, and has for decades, that there are a few things that help your chances of a successful outcome in therapy:
Forming a strong bond with your therapistSetting clear goals togetherCommitting to the process
Forming a Strong Bond With Your Therapist:
Therapeutic Alliance
Also know as the “therapeutic relationship.”
This how you, as the client, and a therapist connect, behave, and engage with each other. It is the 'bond' that develops in the therapy room.
Rapport
This is a state that occurs when two people feel that they are truly able to connect with and communicate with one another and is usually based on shared interests, values, and other personal factors.
This level of honesty, trust, and mutual communication is essential for an effective therapeutic relationship.
Rapport is an essential part of a healthy therapist-client relationship, leaving the client feeling safe and respected so that therapy can be successful. It is the empathic (caring) and a shared understanding of issues between a therapist and a client.
If you are in therapy now and you do not feel rapport with your therapist and/or you have not formed a solid therapeutic relationship, look for another therapist.
If you are looking for a therapist, interview a few before you decide on who you will work with. Many therapists offer a complimentary session so that you can determine whether it will be a good fit.